Pregnancy announcement to kids – how (and when) to tell your kids you’re pregnant
The moment you find out you are adding a new baby to your family is magical…you and your spouse are ecstatic, but how will your older kids take the news? Not only do you want to help your kids get excited about their new sibling, you also want to make sure to do it in the right way so no one (including you!) is disappointed.
Your first child was easy in comparison! Sharing your baby news about baby number 2 (or more) to your little girl or boy is much harder… even though you want to present your second child to your big kid as their new best friend.
You’ve come to the right place…we’ve compiled fun ideas for telling your kids that you are pregnant as well as the best tips and tricks to help you pick the right time to break the big news.
Read on and find out how and when to tell kids you’re pregnant.
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When Should I Tell My Child That I’m Pregnant?
Of course you want to shout it from the rooftops when you get that positive pregnancy test and find out you are expecting! But there are some things to consider before making the announcement to your kids, including:
- The age of your children: Both the ages and personalities of your kids should be a big factor in when you tell them about their new baby brother on the way. You know your kids the best, so take their ability to handle the news into consideration.
- How far along you are in your pregnancy: If you’ve ever gone on a road trip with kids you know “Are we there yet?” gets real old, real quick. Now imagine that impatience with a pregnancy! Kids have a hard time 1) Grasping the passage of time and 2) Being patient. It might be better for everyone if you wait until you are farther along in your pregnancy to tell your kids.
- If you have any pregnancy complications: Complications can push the timeline for telling your kids either direction. If you have intense morning sickness in the first trimester or have to visit the doctor often for a high-risk pregnancy, kids older than 6 are going to notice something is going on and worry. If you have younger kids who won’t understand or will be nervous knowing there are problems, you may want to wait as long as possible before breaking the news about the baby.
- How soon you want other people/family members to know: If you don’t want your mailman, the lady behind you in the store, grandma and the rest of the world to know quite yet then DON’T TELL YOUNGER KIDS! Once a child under six knows about the pregnancy, be ready for everyone to know about it. On the other side of things, you don’t want to make your good news baby announcement on social media then have a well meaning relative ask your little one what they think about the new baby… before you’ve told them!
All of those factors being considered, here are some general guidelines for when to tell your kiddos there is a new baby coming to your family:
- Toddlers (ages 0-3): Beginning of the third trimester (or if they notice and ask questions before that): It is so fun to tell little ones they will be a big sibling…but it is hard for young kids to truly grasp what is going on until there are big physical changes in mom (or the baby arrives!).
- Preschoolers (ages 3-5): Middle of the second trimester (or if they notice and ask questions before that): At this point, the risk of miscarriage decreases, and you should have your energy back! It is a great time to tell preschool age kids so they can get excited and don’t have to wait as long for baby to arrive.
- School Age Kids (ages 6-12): 12 weeks along-Beginning of second trimester (or if they notice and ask questions before that): It isn’t a bad idea to wait until the risk of miscarriage has gone down to tell kids this age the news. That being said, if you show early, kids this age will definitely notice something is happening!
- Teenagers: Anytime! Teens will be able to handle the news AND be helpful if you are feeling sick or tired. A big lead time will also help them adjust to the changes that are about to happen with the family.
- Sibling Groups: It gets tricky if you have kids of varying ages. You can choose to tell them at different times (oldest to youngest) or tell them all at once. It may not be ideal but it is hard to have some kids that know and some kids that don’t.
Top Tips for Telling Kids You’re Pregnant
If you’ve watched pregnancy announcement YouTube videos like this one, you are probably both excited and terrified to tell your own kids. The reactions in this video are MOSTLY happy and excited, but it would be hard to get a bad reaction from your own children. Keep in mind, there’s no perfect way to announce to older siblings that they’re going to have a new member of the family.
Fortunately, there are many things within your control that can make the big reveal a sweet moment instead of a tantrum. Here are four things to consider when you tell your kids you are pregnant:
- Eliminate Distractions: This is BIG, life changing announcement. You don’t want to break this special news to your kid when they are trying to climb the slide at the park or when their favorite show is on. Choose a quiet time and place so the news can fully sink in.
- Make sure your kids are well rested and have fully tummies: One word of caution: HANGRY (Hungry+Angry). If your child has their physical needs met, they will handle big news better.
- Consider privacy: While it might be fun in theory to tell your child in front of a big crowd, remember that kids are actual people with real feelings. If you have a child that might want to hear this news in private versus in a crowd, please be considerate of that.
- Video discreetly/don’t video: I totally get the desire to capture this moment in time on camera… but it can have the same effect as a crowd. Your child might react differently if they know they are being taped so either do it in a less obvious way or record their reaction the old fashioned way by writing it down on paper.
How to Announce Pregnancy to Your Child
There are many different ways to tell your kids you are pregnant, but depending on their age and developmental level your strategy should be different. If you have:
- Toddlers (ages 0-3): A pregnancy announcement at this age is an obscure concept. You will need to have something tangible to help them begin to grasp the idea that a baby is coming. Things that might work: a baby doll, a book about having a baby. Things that won’t work: an ultrasound picture (so hard to understand), t-shirts they have to read.
- Preschoolers (ages 3-5): Pregnancy will still be a bit confusing for this age, but they can understand it a little better! Things that might work: A baby doll, a book about having a baby, a tv episode about having a baby. Things that won’t work: An ultrasound picture, t-shirts they have to read.
- School Age Kids (ages 6-12): This just might be the best age range for telling kiddos you are expecting. Developmentally, they should understand more about babies and pregnancy however, be prepared (and take the opportunity!) to share more about how babies are made. Creative ways to tell your school age kid: Ultrasound picture, age appropriate book about pregnancy/babies. Things that won’t work: anything too immature like a baby doll.
- Teenagers: There aren’t many limits when it comes to telling your teen you are pregnant. Just be sympathetic to the fact that the news might not be terribly exciting for them at first. However, all of that will change when they are holding an adorable baby in real life.
9 Cute Ways to Make Your Pregnancy Announcement to Kids
Now let’s get to the fun part. Here are some cute ways to announce to your kids that you are pregnant.
- Big brother/big sister t-shirts: Grab some cute t-shirts that say “Big Brother” or “Big Sister” and wrap them up. This is a fun way to announce a second pregnancy.
- Box of baby supplies: If you are announcing near a holiday like Christmas, you can wrap up a big box full of baby supplies like diapers, bottles and pacifiers. The kids might be super confused in the beginning but it will be fun to see the understanding dawn in their eyes.
- Calendar with special date marked: Pick out a cute calendar and mark your baby’s due date.
- Birthday cake: Pick up (or make) a delicious birthday cake and write a message on the top like “Baby on the way!”
- Scavenger Hunt: Create a scavenger hunt with clues that lead to a final announcement that a baby is on the way.
- Taking kids to ultrasound appointment: You can surprise the kids by taking them to a doctor’s appointment where they can hear the baby’s heartbeat.
- Puzzle: Grab a blank puzzle and write a message that says, “We’re having a baby!” or “You are going to be a big sister/brother!”
- Create a photo album filled with baby pictures of your child. Then add in a blank page that says more baby pics coming soon!
- Book: Pick up a book that is all about being a big brother or big sister. (There are lots to choose from!)
The Final Word On Announcing Your Pregnancy to Your Kids
Sharing exciting news with your kids about a new baby will be a memorable and sweet experience. With a little forethought and planning your pregnancy announcement can be a time of excitement and joy for your whole family.
If you are looking for more pregnancy announcement inspiration, be sure to watch this YouTube video (but have your tissues ready!). You’ve got this mama!